I am Farrah. I am in London. I am a mother, a writer, a dog and cat owner, and a trained doula.

I have had and gave birth to my son Ezra in February of 2016 at full term (40+3), who was sadly taken far too soon at nine and a half weeks due to SIDS. I fell pregnant again with "Buddy", via a donor, in July of the same year, but this ended in a missed miscarriage where baby stopped growing at five weeks, and I had surgery at nine weeks. No explanation was ever found for either of these losses, both a blessing and a curse. I am now mother to my daughter Edith, who was born at full term in September 2017.

I have been a mildly active part of the trying to conceive, pregnancy and parenting communities on Facebook and Instagram for a while (after sacking off tumblr). I have noticed that there seems to be a trend of optimism in them, despite the tragic losses we have suffered that have for the most part come across to me as forced and insincere. We do not have any obligation to be optimistic. When we do not normalise the sadness and anger that comes with grief we make it seem as if it isn't normal to feel those things, and this is beyond damaging.

I did a Creative Writing honours and so thought I would use my tendency to write, and degree in it, to help do this, to help normalise all of these things. I also found that many people didn't know how to respond to these kind of events, how do you know what to say and what to do?

We are in this together. From each other we learn.

For more information, please feel free to contact me via e-mail.